Learn How to Value Everything You've Got
There is a phrase in the article Value life to achieve well-being published in recursosdeautoayuda.com that I loved and I decided to start this post with it: To value what we have is the first step to achieve a subjective state of happiness. Let's break it down for a moment. To value is to simply be thankful and care about something or someone in our lives. Taking the first step means that we actively have to look for our happiness, take steps towards it. And it qualifies happiness as a subjective state because it depends on each person's perspective for a definition of what happiness is for each one of them.
Now, it seems that many times we focus more on what we don't have, in what we lack, in our shortcomings ("When I have X or Y, I can be happy!") rather than on all those things we do have, and that if we valued more, they could give us that happiness that we are desperately looking for in the wrong place.
The article Learn how to value what you have, before it's too late from lamentemaravillosa.com offers three wonderful tips so that you can start appreciating everything good in your life right now, and that'll make you feel instantly happy:
- Discover life's small treasures: Let's talk about the simple things like having a roof over your head, food to eat, hot water, which maybe at this moment don't seem like huge things, but if you stop for a minute to think about the hundred millions in this world that don't have clean water to drink or shower or bread to eat, then it is up to you to thank and value your house, your food (Even your senses! You can see, smell, talk, touch, walk. How many people in the world can't?). Let's also talk about those small things and moments that can't be bought with all the money in the world: your child's smile, your partner's hug, the warmth of your family, that fun moment with friends.
- Appreciating what you have takes effort: Why effort? Because you have to do it consciously. You must take a moment during the day, just like you take it to shower or wash your teeth, to stop what you are doing and thank from the bottom of your soul for the things you do have. It isn't bad to want more, but you must remember that, even if you don't get what you want, you can be happy with what you have now.
- Removing value from worthless things: Many times we don't value what we have because we care too much about insignificant things that happen to us. Nobody likes waiting for twenty minutes in line at the bank, and that can make you upset, but if you see it as an opportunity to spend twenty uninterrupted minutes talking to your son, you may be happy instead of more stressed.
Finally, let's do an illuminating exercise: Close your eyes and imagine for a moment that you lose everything you have, and all the people you love. How would you feel? Then open your eyes and start appreciating them now, right now.