Lower your Intensity
We are specially talking about your love relationship, but it also applies to all aspects of life. It's good that you're a passionate dedicated woman, but being on top of your partner (or children, or friends, or coworkers or anyone else) twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, makes you "intense" and there is nothing worse than that because you end up wearing out your boyfriend or husband.
In fact, so much "intensity" shows a lack of self-confidence and even low self-esteem. That need to overwhelm people with attention, complaints about imaginary situations or rants to your partner or any other significant other in your life causes just the opposite effect than the one you are expecting, they avoid you.
And now you must be asking yourself: am I like that? Because many times we do it unconsciously and we don't realize our intensity until it is too late. According to the article 5 things that show you are an intense woman in your relationships from peru.com these are the signs:
- Your wallpaper is your partner's photo: Even if you really love him... Seriously? The wallpaper? Aren't there other things to put there? It's too intense.
- You always want to know what he's doing: And by always, we mean ALL the time. The poor man has to answer your calls at all times, and if he doesn't, then he gets more calls, and then rants and complaints. You also keep your phone very close to you to get any of his calls quickly.
- You constantly check his last connection and ALL his social media: To see who liked his posts, what he posted, etc., etc. You check all his profiles obsessively, who he follows, who follows him.
- You try to be with him at all times: Don't you have friends or family to be with besides your partner? It's important to spend quality time together, but also learn to respect individual space. Your partner has the right to feel relaxed at work, with his friends, in his hobbies.
Finally, I want you to think about this: Even if your intentions are good, because you want to take care of him, there is nothing less attractive to men than a needy, dependent, insecure woman. If you keep up that attitude it'll most likely end up costing you your relationship. So we're going to lower the intensity level.