Stop Sabotaging Yourself
In those moments when we feel unable to move forward, it's very easy to find excuses: “I'm not doing well at my job because my boss does not appreciate me;” “I want to stop eating so much junk food, but I'm going to order a double portion of fries because I feel like it;” “I don't start my own company because I'm not able to manage it;” “I can't find the motivation to exercise;” etc. Does it ring a bell?
There is a popular phrase that I really like and that sums up this self-sabotaging behavior perfectly: “Get out of your own way.” Many times we ourselves are our greatest enemy because we have negative habits that prevent us from achieving what we want. The worst is that we tend to do it unconsciously, and we end up disoriented, not knowing why we can't move forward.
What are those harmful habits and what can you do about them?
- Procrastination, which is postponing our obligations over and over again without a justifiable reason. To deal with this habit, I always recommend setting small daily goals and writing them down in your planner. Plan your day in detail. At some point, an unforeseen event will take place and you won't meet your plan, but try to do so most days. At night, you will feel very satisfied and calm that you have achieved your daily goals.
- The abuse of food, drugs or alcohol, which harms the body and mind. In these cases, you need to understand why you do it, look for healthier alternatives to meet that need, and avoid any person or situation that encourages you to consume them. In the case of addictions, I suggest seeking specialized help with a doctor, a dietician or support groups.
- Excessive dependence on others to do anything. It's very important to create strong links with those around us and that always creates a certain level of dependency. However, if everything you want to do depends on another person (your family, boss, friends, partner), your journey can become very slow or stop altogether. Mentally review what you can control on your own, and make it your priority to focus on.
- Pay attention to that small destructive inner voice that tells you that you aren't capable, that you aren't enough, that you're going to fail. It stands for our deepest fears from past traumatic events and it will always be there. But if you recognize it, you can talk to it: “I know where you come from, but look at everything I've achieved, so yes, I can; yes, I am capable; and you're not going to stop me”.
Starting today, stop sabotaging yourself and help yourself instead. For more tips on living peacefully and happily at any age,